This has been a great weekend. I did not get the shoes I posted the other day. I got two other pairs instead. I am a sucker for a good comfy pair of shoes from Aerosoles. Two pairs with leopard print on them is pure heaven.
A new development in the shoe shopping yesterday, the man accompanied me. It was a little awkward at first. Shoe shopping is an activity that I usually prefer to do alone. To my surprise, he has been asking me to take him with me for a couple of weeks. I am not sure what he expected but he said he had fun. Apparently I am "ruthless" when it comes to my shoes. I am still not sure if this is a compliment, or if he didn't know what else to say, but I am glad he had a good time. Later in the evening, we played a game and watched tv on the couch. I like being with a man who is able to go to a wine fest and play one weekend and sit on the couch in pajama pants the very next. He, like me, craves balance I think.
Also this weekend, I hosted book club. This month's selection was "Room" by Emma Donague. It was a good read and lead to some great discussion. I love getting together with these women every month, and hopefully there will be more joining us soon. If anyone has suggestions for books, please feel free to leave them here. I can't just read all self help and happiness books :)
I am going to sign off. I have a really big week ahead of me and I want to make sure that I am primed for success. This means switching off the tv, reading my books, running drinking all of my water and most importantly, getting enough sleep. Have a great week dear readers!
Sunday, September 18, 2011
Friday, September 16, 2011
Shoes Glorious Shoes
Lately, I have been feeling that all of this happiness progress deserves some kind of reward. After all, I have spent the last nine months working on improving each aspect of my own happiness. I have reached goals and I deserve a treat.
Normally, the thought of paying full retail gives me hives. (Well, not really, I am not a stress breaker outer). I usually wait until a sale and then go to town. Here is the pair that I am going to treat myself tomorrow:
In the rich plum color of course :)
I am excited
Normally, the thought of paying full retail gives me hives. (Well, not really, I am not a stress breaker outer). I usually wait until a sale and then go to town. Here is the pair that I am going to treat myself tomorrow:
In the rich plum color of course :)
I am excited
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
Quality Time
Today, the man informed me that he had read last night's post and was feeling that he should be doing more to show how much I mean to him. I found this to be confusing. While I do appreciate the gifts he brings and the cards he gives me, I know he cares about me because he spends quality time with me. Whether we are at a wine tasting or sitting on the couch with our laptops out, he is showing me how much I mean to him because he is willing to do these things. He is always helping me to make things easier for me too (need a case of wine carried up to the third floor? He's game). So while I feel important, he feels inadequate. How can this be? The answer is a pretty easy one.
We have different love languages. (On a side note, I have finally figured out a reading list. You will notice the Five Languages of Love is on it. ) My love languages are Quality Time and Acts of Service. This means that the way to my heart is to watch a movie with me while you do my laundry. This knowledge has helped me immensely. I am able to determine what it is that I need to feel loved and I am better able to seek it out (or I guess I could vocalize what it is that I need too, but the man is really good at these things, so I don't need to). The man is also Quality Time, but has a secondary language of Words of Affirmation. In the end, we really are compatible.
I am happy that we have both figured out our love languages. Hopefully this will help to build an even better relationship than the one we currently enjoy. So next time the man is feeling that he is not doing a great job letting me know how he feels, I know that I need to tell him how much of a good job he is doing with my laundry.
We have different love languages. (On a side note, I have finally figured out a reading list. You will notice the Five Languages of Love is on it. ) My love languages are Quality Time and Acts of Service. This means that the way to my heart is to watch a movie with me while you do my laundry. This knowledge has helped me immensely. I am able to determine what it is that I need to feel loved and I am better able to seek it out (or I guess I could vocalize what it is that I need too, but the man is really good at these things, so I don't need to). The man is also Quality Time, but has a secondary language of Words of Affirmation. In the end, we really are compatible.
I am happy that we have both figured out our love languages. Hopefully this will help to build an even better relationship than the one we currently enjoy. So next time the man is feeling that he is not doing a great job letting me know how he feels, I know that I need to tell him how much of a good job he is doing with my laundry.
Monday, September 12, 2011
Housekeeping
Today I was cleaning out some old e-mails and stumbled on one of those forwards that you are supposed to send to 27 people in 35 seconds or else face a lifetime of death and despair. Obviously, I do not always send these on (unless the words death and despair are listed in the "this will happen to you" part of the please send on pitch). This one hit a chord with me, which is probably why I kept it for a few years. I will paste it below. Just some food to think about.
Read Each One Carefully & Think About It a Second or Two
1. No man or woman is worth your tears, & the one who is, won't make you cry.
2. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
3. A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand & touches your heart.
4. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can' t have them
5. Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.
6. To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.
7. Don't waste your time on someone, who isn't willing to waste their time on you.
8. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful.
9. Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened.
10. There's always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting & just be more careful about who you trust next time around...
11. Make yourself a better person & know who you are before you try & know someone else & expect them to know you.
12. Don't try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to.
REMEMBER: WHATEVER HAPPENS, HAPPENS FOR A REASON.
Read Each One Carefully & Think About It a Second or Two
1. No man or woman is worth your tears, & the one who is, won't make you cry.
2. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
3. A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand & touches your heart.
4. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can' t have them
5. Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.
6. To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.
7. Don't waste your time on someone, who isn't willing to waste their time on you.
8. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful.
9. Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened.
10. There's always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting & just be more careful about who you trust next time around...
11. Make yourself a better person & know who you are before you try & know someone else & expect them to know you.
12. Don't try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to.
REMEMBER: WHATEVER HAPPENS, HAPPENS FOR A REASON.
Sunday, September 11, 2011
I am a Sagittarius
Here is something silly that keeps me happy (well most of the time). I look up my horoscope just about every day. Common sense tells me that these cannot really apply to me, but I look anyway. I look because maybe just maybe one day it will tell me that all of my dreams are coming true, and everything will be a-ok.
The funny thing is, most of my dreams are already coming true. Everything will be a-ok in the end, and the only person who has control over any of this is me. It is a very powerful thing to realize that all of the potential in my dreams resides with me. I am the only one who can do these things.
But I can look at my horoscope anyway, just to be sure I am on the right path for the day.
The funny thing is, most of my dreams are already coming true. Everything will be a-ok in the end, and the only person who has control over any of this is me. It is a very powerful thing to realize that all of the potential in my dreams resides with me. I am the only one who can do these things.
But I can look at my horoscope anyway, just to be sure I am on the right path for the day.
Saturday, September 10, 2011
The Unexamined Life
Today was a great day. The man and I went on an architectural river tour of the city, we attended the Windy City Wine Festival and we capped off the evening with a performance of "Long Story Short" by Colin Quinn. It was a great day.
One aspect of the play that resonated with me was the beginning of Greek Philosophy. Socrates once said "The unexamined life is not worth living." I happen to agree. If one does not take the time to really think about life and examine what it is that makes them tick, then what is the point of living? If you do not take the time to know yourself, and what it is that makes you happy or sad or just plain tired, how do you function? It is only when one truly knows themselves that others can even attempt to get to know them.
Is this the beginning of clinical narcissism? Probably. Does everyone you know need to know every detail of your life? Certainly not. However, in this day and age, I am starting to think that many people are using sites like Facebook and Twitter to share the mundane details of their every movement, meal and passing thought without really knowing themselves. Are we really connected if we can't connect with ourselves? Is this what leads to chronic over sharing? Or is this just another way to avoid having a conversation with yourself (not necessarily out loud) about what it is that you need, want or hope to accomplish? Getting to know yourself is kind of scary, but necessary for happiness. After all, you are the only one you are going to have to be with for the rest of your life. I believe that relationship is worth examining.
One aspect of the play that resonated with me was the beginning of Greek Philosophy. Socrates once said "The unexamined life is not worth living." I happen to agree. If one does not take the time to really think about life and examine what it is that makes them tick, then what is the point of living? If you do not take the time to know yourself, and what it is that makes you happy or sad or just plain tired, how do you function? It is only when one truly knows themselves that others can even attempt to get to know them.
Is this the beginning of clinical narcissism? Probably. Does everyone you know need to know every detail of your life? Certainly not. However, in this day and age, I am starting to think that many people are using sites like Facebook and Twitter to share the mundane details of their every movement, meal and passing thought without really knowing themselves. Are we really connected if we can't connect with ourselves? Is this what leads to chronic over sharing? Or is this just another way to avoid having a conversation with yourself (not necessarily out loud) about what it is that you need, want or hope to accomplish? Getting to know yourself is kind of scary, but necessary for happiness. After all, you are the only one you are going to have to be with for the rest of your life. I believe that relationship is worth examining.
Friday, September 9, 2011
TGIF
Thank goodness it is Friday.
I have new glasses, new contacts, the man is home and we enjoyed dinner at a great Italian place in Norridge. I have so much to be grateful for that I just don't know where to start. I have a wonderful family that will listen to me and offer support. I have a great boyfriend who supports me and loves me for who I am. I have great friends who are always there for me and will tell it like it is. I ate the best tomato basil sauce in the greater Chicagoland area.
Most of all, I realize how important these things are to me and how far these people have allowed me to come in my life. I would not be the person I am today without each and every person who is in my life. The ones who are great to me, as well as the ones who are not so great. Every yin has a yang. I think that the not so great people are in my life right now as a reminder to appreciate the wonderful people who are in my life, and are there for the right reasons. It might not be karma, but it is close.
I have new glasses, new contacts, the man is home and we enjoyed dinner at a great Italian place in Norridge. I have so much to be grateful for that I just don't know where to start. I have a wonderful family that will listen to me and offer support. I have a great boyfriend who supports me and loves me for who I am. I have great friends who are always there for me and will tell it like it is. I ate the best tomato basil sauce in the greater Chicagoland area.
Most of all, I realize how important these things are to me and how far these people have allowed me to come in my life. I would not be the person I am today without each and every person who is in my life. The ones who are great to me, as well as the ones who are not so great. Every yin has a yang. I think that the not so great people are in my life right now as a reminder to appreciate the wonderful people who are in my life, and are there for the right reasons. It might not be karma, but it is close.
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